Angela’s Corner: Help from Afar

BCS_Blog_DTOP_BelowTitle_336x280

2004 07 30_5459I was pretty devastated at my sister’s diagnosis.  I knew she was going to have a battle on her hands.  Finding out her sentinel node was inundated with cancer cells almost guaranteed there were more nodes involved.  A second surgery was definitely needed to remove more lymph nodes.

Once my sister had a cancer stage, I knew I wanted to help.  I knew I wouldn’t be as available as I could be because of work — and the winter weather did not always leave the best road conditions over the two passes I would have been traveling.  I spent much time trying to figure out how I could help her from afar.

Many phone calls to my sister were needed.  It was needed more for my own benefit than hers.  I found my sister’s diagnosis to be much harder to handle than my own.  Keeping positive was easy when I talked to her, but as soon as I would hang up, a few tears would always fall.  Why was it so hard?  I guess it was because her cancer was not caught in one of the earlier stages.  Because I knew that I could easily handle my own outcomes – I could control it; I couldn’t control anything with my sister.  Because no matter how positive I tried to remain, the worst case scenarios wanted to creep into my thoughts.

I knew worrying myself was not an ideal situation.  If I was going to be thinking about my sister and her situation, I was going to put it to good use.  I jumped on my computer during my free time and researched.  I found local programs, support groups, and exercises that would benefit her during her surgery recovery and chemotherapy treatments.  I acquired a list of Facebook pages she might be interested in following.  I found myself looking into just about everything.  I compiled my list of “stuff” and sent it to my sister via email.  I knew she’d look at the information, and then determine what she needed to know and utilize it on her own time.

Even to this day I have difficulty not tearing up when I think of my sister and what she has had to endure.  I often close my eyes, say a silent prayer, cry, wipe the tears, and exhale the breath I was holding.  I may have been the sibling that irritated her the most, and vice versa, but she always holds a special place in my heart.  And, I would do anything to help see her through her hurdles.

Learn more about Angela’s battle against breast cancer.
New posts every Monday and Wednesday.

Read More

 

Medianet BCS
Angela Banker https://blog.thebreastcancersite.com/wp-content/authors/Angela%20Banker-23.jpg