Angela’s Corner: Q & A with EmmaAngela Banker
My daughter means the world to me, and seeing her distraught over breast cancer was painful to watch.Â Emma was a champ throughout my diagnosis, and even my sister’s.Â However, she still had her own moments and issues during my diagnosis.Â I sat down with Emma recently to gain a little extra perspective from her point-of-view.Â To all of the moms out there seeking treatment, this little Q & A session might help you know what your child may be thinking and feeling.
I was sad.Â I knew some people die from cancer since we do the Relay for Life and I really didnâ€™t want to lose you.
What was the scariest thing about everything?
That you had more cancer than what they thought you did.
When Mommy left for her surgery, howâ€™d you feel?
Sad.Â I didnâ€™t want you to leave because I would miss you.Â Without you, I may have nightmares.Â I feel safe when I know you are home.Â I was scared too.Â I really wanted you to come back, but I had Daddy and Rosie (our dog) to keep me company.
What were the saddest and happiest moments?
Altogether, I would say you having breast cancer was the saddest.Â Knowing that there is such a big family history scares me.Â The happiest would be when you were done with recovering from your mastectomies and you were able to come home.Â I knew your cancer was gone then.
I loved it!Â You could come back home and you could do stuff with me other than sleep and watch movies.
What was it like going to the doctorâ€™s with Mommy?
When I went to one of your (plastic surgery) appointments, watching that needle go into your boob was scary.Â I had a lot of fun though because we made a day out of it.Â Going to Pikeâ€™s Place Market in Seattle is always fun.
What was the best and worst thing about the whole experience?
The worst was finding out you had cancer and figuring out that I might get cancer when Iâ€™m older.Â I donâ€™t know if there is a best thing about it.Â Knowing that we got your cancer out and that you are here is pretty good.
I cried when you had cancer too because you left me to have your mastectomies.Â I didnâ€™t want anyone else in our family to have cancer.Â It made Great-Nana, Nana, you, and then Auntie; thatâ€™s too many people.
When you saw Auntie without her hair for the first time howâ€™d that go?
It was kind of funny and sad.Â Funny because she was bald and had these teeny-tiny specs of hair coming out, like when I see my baby pictures.Â Sad because she had cancer and it was a way to show me she wasnâ€™t healthy any more.Â I was afraid to give her a hug because I didnâ€™t want to hurt her.
What would be your advice to another child whose parent is going through all of this?
Just stay calm.Â Pray that theyâ€™ll be better.Â Talk to others and know you donâ€™t have to be scared by yourself.Â Give them a bunch of loves when they are feeling sad because it will help them feel better.
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