8 Ways Husbands Can Be Invaluable to Their Wives with Breast Cancer
The Breast Cancer Site
Learning that your wife has breast cancer can really rock your world. It’s common for husbands to feel powerless and helpless in the face of the diagnosis. For simple support, friends and relatives can step in with hugs, meals, and other types of help. But there are some things that only a husband can do for his wife. Learn some ways you can help your sweetheart fight cancer.
Be Her Advocate
Breast cancer treatment can be complicated, involving surgeons, oncologists, radiation specialists, and other medical professionals. Be your wife’s advocate. Make sure that important information doesn’t get lost moving from one office to the next, ask questions about care, and help her evaluate treatment options. Remember, it’s her body and her decision to make when it comes to treatment, but you have an important role as a sounding board and champion.
Encourage Her to Seek Support
Although you are her greatest supporter, make sure your wife doesn’t try to rely on you alone. Breast cancer support groups, religious circles, and individual therapy are all available options that can allow her to work through the emotional and mental challenges she’s facing. Being able to talk about her experiences with people who’ve been there but aren’t intimately related to her is incredibly helpful. Don’t forget to seek support for yourself as well: you can’t be her lifeboat if you’re going under.
Organize Her Stuff
A major illness generates an amazing amount of paperwork, even if much of it is online. Let her concentrate on healing while you organize and keep track of bills, prescriptions, test results, appointments, medications, and insurance claims. If you have children, take over managing their schedules as well. All of your wife’s mental and physical energy needs to go toward getting well.
Pick Up the Slack
About that mental and physical energy: she’s probably not always going to have much of it. Depending on her treatment and her body, your wife is likely to experience some radiation- or chemo-related fatigue. While she’s recovering, show your love by picking up the slack and taking over some, or all, of her share of the household chores. You’re going through a lot, too, and it’s OK to let some things slide a bit. But at a minimum, the dishes and the laundry need to be washed, and a tidy environment will give her one less thing to feel stressed about.
The Breast Cancer Site
is a place where supporters and survivors come together to help fight breast cancer. In addition to sharing personal stories of hope, shopping for the cause, and signing petitions, visitors can take just a moment each day to click on a pink button to provide free mammograms for women in need. Visit The Breast Cancer Site and click today - it's free!