The 10 Most Important Things Moms Should Say To Their DaughtersThe Breast Cancer Site
As much as we may wish we could, we can’t shield our daughters from the high-pressure stresses and expectations of the real world forever. However, we can raise them with the tools to tackle life with confidence. Here are 10 things to say to your daughter to help empower her when she faces the world.
1. You’re Smart and Pretty
Your daughter is beautiful, and it’s hard not to say so often. There’s nothing wrong with complimenting her looks, but it is important to remember that she will judge herself based on what others seem to judge her by. Be a source of positive reinforcement for the good you see in her!
2. You’ve Been Working Hard
While it’s important to tell your daughter she’s smart, it’s even more important to encourage her hard work. In fact, a growing body of research shows that, contrary to what you may expect, complimenting a child’s smarts and not their work ethic leads to under-performance down the line. Praise your daughter for dedication and persistence as well as for her natural smarts, and she won’t be as discouraged when at first she does not succeed.
3. I’m Proud of You
When your daughter is young, you are her whole world, and she looks to you for approval. Recognizing when she does a good job will help her to develop a high self esteem. Whether it’s for social kindness, intellectual achievement, or physical prowess, don’t forget to tell her that you noticed her effort!
4. I’m Sorry
Everyone makes mistakes, even grown-ups. Being unafraid of apologizing and admitting when you have done something wrong sets an important example of owning up to her own mistakes. Your daughter will learn that you respect her as a person, and will be more likely to take responsibility for her own mistakes in the future.
5. Try Many Different Things
Whether she’s interested in swimming or martial arts, give your daughter the resources and encouragement to pursue many different things that interest her so she can discover what she likes.